Hi Heini,
Yes, I have to agree that Goodwe support is extremely slow and tech support is more a call center where nobody knows anything about solar.
Regarding your battery charging, why charge from the grid? This does not make sense if you have PV connected.
Rather set your On-grid discharge low, like 40% or 50%.
Then your Backup to 80%.
So under normal day to day operations you will only discharge down to 50%, leaving you a further 30% for backup when the grid is down.
This is something you would have to play with depending on your demands on the system.
General Mode is still the best. Backup mode basically ignores the grid so then you actually running off Eskom grid and only from PV and batteries.